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The relationship we have with ourselves is one of the most important things in life. For the way we feel about ourselves affects every single aspect of our lives from our perceptions and decisions, to our relationships, success and general experience of life. And yet when asking someone how they feel about themselves, it is not uncommon for a person to come up with a string of negative words that they wouldn’t dream of saying to their own best friend. When this happens they are often in an inner state of conflict, they want to feel better about themselves, but there is a belief in the subconscious mind which is going in completely the opposite direction and blocking their success. All these sometimes harsh words and negative self-beliefs have a very disempowering, detrimental effect on both the mind and body and make it very difficult for the person to enjoy their life and fulfill their wishes and desires.
A simple muscle test in a session clearly demonstrates how negative self-dialogue affects the mind and body and how the use of positive, powerful words can have a dramatic positive effect.
In fact, such is the power of words that words can even change the structure of water as shown in Mr. Masaru Emoto’s famous water experiment. When you consider that a high percentage of the human body consists of water you only have to take a moment to imagine the effect your words can have on the way you feel.
Setting yourself free from all the negative self beliefs about yourself that are holding you back can really transform your life. For there is nothing quite so powerful as feeling good about yourself. For there is only one person who will be there for you throughout your entire life from birth to when you leave this planet and that is YOU. For a moment, can you imagine the difference in your life if you had your best friend at your side throughout your whole life who was always there for you rather than someone who constantly puts you down and disempowers you and sabotages your success. And yet many of us live in this disharmonious state of being.
So where has all this negativity come from as we certainly did not arrive in this world in that state of being?
Our main beliefs about ourselves and the world all around us are formed up until approximately the age of seven years old when our parents or the people responsible for our upbringing start to coach us to fit into society and teach us what they consider to be good or bad, right or wrong. And this is where it can start to become problematic. For when coaching begins the child can quickly and easily interpret what is being said to them as in some way not being ‘enough’, that showing emotions is considered ‘wrong’ or that they do not deserve love. The responsibility of coaching the child becomes even more difficult if the person does not understand how the subconscious mind works. The child forms their beliefs about themselves and the world all around them from what is said directly to them and from what they observe.
From these core beliefs they then form their ‘fixed idea’ about themselves. It is not until the age of approximately 7 years old that the child begins to develop the ‘critical factor’ and can analyze information and has the ability to filter out information that is considered ‘bad’ or false. So these early years are critical in the child’s development. The child is so dependant at this stage on adults to look after them that they can often adapt their behaviour to what is considered as ‘good’ in order be accepted and loved by the adult, sometimes abandoning their authentic true self or suppressing emotions.
School can often have a significant effect on how a child feels about themselves and whether they are encouraged in their learning or yet again receive the message that they are not ‘enough’. This again can be problematic, especially if a child learns in a different way from the rest of the class or has other difficulties. The school years can particularly affect a child if they are bullied. As the child develops into an adult their working environment and relationships, particularly abusive ones, can also have an enormous effect on how they feel.
But what about the effect that society and media has on us and the powerful subliminal programming that disempowers us and tries to make us conform in the way we think and behave? The way that society teaches us when we are young that self-love belongs to those who are above themselves when self love is empowering and one of the most important loves of all, for how can you truly love others when you cannot even love yourself? Are you aware of how many times you are given the powerful message that you are not ‘enough’ whether it is in your appearance, how you live your life or in what you achieve. How many times in modern society and the media is the subliminal message given that the path to fulfillment and happiness is through material and financial gain as we become a more and more disillusioned and isolated society, losing connection with community and ourselves as we reach out for our mobile phones. We are repeatedly given the message that the answer to how we feel is ‘out there’ instead of within ourselves but life is an Inner Game.
…but how can we possibly know ourselves when we identify ourselves with the beliefs that someone else installed into us and they are not our’s? This can lead to us having absolutely no idea of who we really are as we presume that we are our beliefs rather than that we are a human being experiencing beliefs. It can even lead to a fear of ‘If I am not this person (who I have identified with) who am I?’
So what is the solution, can positive thinking do the trick?
Positive thinking by itself is unlikely to work if your powerful subconscious mind has a conflicting self-belief that is taking you in completely the opposite direction.
Once our beliefs match the wishes and desires of our authentic self, our true self, rather than someone else, we can begin to enjoy being who we really are and step into our own power and potential….and there starts our journey of self-discovery.
Analytical Hypnotherapy can get right down to the root cause of where the negative self-beliefs came from so that a new belief about yourself can be introduced into your subconscious mind that supports your true self in accordance with your wishes. This new belief is then repeated in a highly individualized reprogramming audio for you to listen to which further establishes the new ideas. Learning self-love and acceptance and believing in yourself is an invaluable step in your journey of self-discovery and inner peace.
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